Ask HN: How did you convince family and friends to join your XMPP/Matrix server?

A HN user wants to know how to convince family and friends to switch from SMS/WhatsApp to a niche messaging app like XMPP or Matrix, citing ease of use, reliability, and fun features as key requirements. They've tried self-hosting servers and clients but found the UX to be worse than expected, with most clients imitating popular apps like Slack or Discord. The main advantage of XMPP/Matrix is a consistent experience across iOS and Android, but feature degradation occurs when SMS conversations with Android users are initiated by iOS users, especially in group chats.